Keep Going

I tell a lot of jokes but I am serious when I say that the life you want you have to manifest. The Creator already has your purpose placed inside you. Sometimes life and the challenges we face may deter you from your dreams. Keep striving. You never should give up because your breakthrough may be literally around the corner.

Comparison is also a dream killer. Everyone is on their own journey. We all live in different locations, experience different things, we lead different lives. I am a worrier. Always have been. I could ruin a wet dream with my complaining. It's annoying. Spend enough time with yourself and you see your faults. Then take more time to correct them instead of judging others.

Forge relationships with good friends. If you are a woman seek out or respond to other women who you get a good feeling about. Be cautious but it's OK to meet new friends. I am a bitch. Some people don't like the B word. Okay but I am. It's okay to have girlfriends. I personally don't run with a crew anymore because I have been burned. A few genuine, honest loving friends is a blessing in life.

Ignore the dream killers and naysayers. I think the term HATER is too vague. Some people just can't envision their own dreams coming true so they attempt to kill your spirit. It's sad when someone is in the same place literally, emotionally, figuratively and spirituality. I have had the same dreams for years. I just was so busy existing that I never pursued them in earnest. Those days are over.

Sometimes you have to be still and know God. His opinion and your own are the only ones that matter. For example someone I was connected to awhile back has a new show coming out shortly. She is doing the publicity blitz, interviews etc. While she is promoting her show her social media accounts are not flooded with it. She is humble. It has been a long time coming. She chalked it up to God's Divine Plan.

I find nothing more flattering than a person in a position of power to tell me "I finally put the name with the face". All the time I spent honing my skills is serving me well on my journey. It's HARD but nothing in life worth anything is easy. I am just about my business now because I am thankful for all I have yet I want so MUCH more. I want the comfort and peace of mind only success can bring. Stability and the gift of being able to give back through Philanthropy. Politics is too much for an honest heart. I use to be meek and then the tests of LIFE made me stronger. I am not bitter but I am also not the same person I was four years ago. Or yesterday for that matter. Regardless what you are going through,  if you want to succeed you must keep going.

Virtuous Women

After a relaxing and fun filled weekend I returned home to my problems and my burdens. I know for a fact that over the course of this year the change in my desire to share my story with the world has come from the loss of many people that were special to me.  So many great people are no longer here to share the milestones and love we all take for granted. I decide today and every day to choose joy instead of despair.

It is hard to find your joy when life seems so hard. The reason I seek it out daily is because
I refuse to live each day sad.I have done that for too long. I try so hard to be positive, it is a struggle. I feel so overwhelmed at times. Raising a teenager, maintaining EVERYTHING, being a passenger on some one's journey. Yet these challenges that I face, women I loved, respected and admired are no longer here to experience life's trials and tribulations.

A former co-worker and friend of mine Audrey Harrison passed away after a heroic battle with Cancer a few years ago. She was an excellent writer and created an in-depth journal about her fight from her initial diagnosis to her last updates weeks before she passed. I connected her with a Breast Cancer Survivor Crystal Brown-Tatum. Audrey fought such a valiant fight and though she succumbed to this disease she left behind two magnificent sons that she raised into fine young men. They still are dealing with her death as is expected. I pray for them always and know their Mother shines sun on them even in the rain.

This journey I AM ON called life is guided by the spirits of many. My girlfriend Sonna Owens who was the brightest light in the world and her smile lit up EVERY room she was in. Fiercely devoted to her family and friends, God decided to call her home and it broke all our hearts. I remain in contact with her wonderful Mother Sharon Owens-Duff. A former English Teacher she saw the best in me and my talents before I recognized them. She always encourages me and I not only see her as a Mentor but like a Mother as well. Losing a child is the hardest thing anyone has to face. Ma was determined that Sonna would live on through her and her resilient commitment to that is so BEAUTIFUL. Jermaine and I ALWAYS say God sent us to each other Christmas Night. Sonna always complimented me on my appearance and I ALWAYS told her" You're the beautiful one, look at that face". I would joke to her about I can always get a man, but never end up wanting them. Sonna and Jermaine have the same birthday, two days after mine. We made plans to celebrate together with our Sister/Friend Celena that year and unfortunately she passed away shortly before we could. I met Jermaine that year. I believe NOTHING is coincidence.

NATASHA. Tashi's life and death represent so much of who I have become. Natasha was my Ace Cherylann's friend. We were co-workers at Verizon for many years. We weren't Besties. I respected her so much because she was the same person every day. A rarity in that Call Center. She also was one of the few people I worked with who reached out to me during my disability. Fiercely private I watched her fight against that horrific disease(her description). She rallied time and time again. I went to visit her and had a conversation that I hope one day to see immortalized on-screen. It was a day I will never forget. I met her beautiful friend Shelly and witnessed the love her partner Rodney displayed on a daily basis.They cemented my belief that you take the love with you. SHE WAS A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IN EVERY SENSE OF THE TERM.

My Aunt Bessie has been gone for sooo long. My cousin Travis is her son and she died
when we were children. She was so good to me. Not in a way that you remember people that pass on positively. It was the truth. I am not very close to some members of my family.I never spent much time with them during my childhood. Aunt Bessie took me EVERYWHERE. She always made me feel like a

Princess. It broke my heart when she went away. That's how it felt, like she went away.....

 Tyneesha was my son's cousin's mother. Jarid isn't ONLY David's cousin he is one of his best friends. Kazia is besties with her daughter Shalaila. Jada is my baby girl.Their Mother was my friend.Tyneesha who everyone called Tiny was so BEAUTIFUL inside and out. She always loved to laugh, joke and eat my fried chicken. She was the best person to go shopping with. We ALWAYS had the best times. Her girls are so BEAUTIFUL.

The reason I wrote this today is because today is Jarid's 18th birthday. His mother just passed away and I am heartbroken for him and his siblings. Tiny's Mother passed away when she was a child and of course this impacted who she became. All of these beautiful, courageous and captivating women had possessions and all the marvelous things that come with being the Regal Women they were. In the end NONE of this mattered. The loved ones they left behind mourn them.The kisses they no longer can give. I am such a materialistic person. I admit that. I LOVE my things. They are just that things. I realized that each time I had to say goodbye to someone who was so in love with life. When I thought we had a gas leak in my building, I grabbed my Cat.


There are no do overs in life. We don't know the day nor the hour. I am just happy to be here. Problems and all. I am thankful for each sunrise. No MATTER what you are going through, give thanks in all you do because God gave you the gift of today. Enjoy it.

Live, Laugh, Love

Sunshine

The Kim Chronicles

My Life in Pictures

Don't wait to the water runs dry....

I saw this Memes and found it to be so profound. My Social Media postings and now my Blog are aimed at educating, entertaining and informing the public. I post about many things and use my own life experiences at times. I have experienced alot and I hope you  take with you the knowledge that we all have been through similar experiences.

I have had a number of relationships. I am closer to forty than thirty. I love hard. I am alot to deal with. I spent more time than I should have waiting for someone to change. I loved him. I felt that the love I had for him outweighed the need for me to be happy. He wasn't even trying either. He didn't have to. I was so naive. He didn't deserve me.

Time and time again, no MATTER what I found myself right back in his arms. Lengthy absences, new beginnings with others, no matter what Kim would always be there. Then I met a monster. Someone who tried to kill my spirit. After that dark time was over I told myself I would never again be with anyone just to be able to say I love someone.  

There are degrees of commitment. As we age, financial obligations is one of the reasons why many people stay together. Two incomes are better than one. That isn't a reason to stay TOGETHER! In researching for my book I have learned that unequivocally children are happier when you are happy. It's a scientific fact. 

I have never been one of those women to preach about a perfect formula because I don't have one. I know staying with someone just to be able to take Usies is bullshit. I want you to take your worst fear. Now imagine if you REALLY experienced it. Would that person be there for you?? Fidelity is free. If you go years and never sleep with anyone else then why can't your partner do the same? 

In conclusion, I learned many things from Mr. Wrong. One is the same way you get someone is the same way you lose them. Two I refuse to ride for someone who will not walk with me. Last but not least you can give a man next to forever to get it together yet fall in love with the next at "Hello".